Bad stuff happens to you and to everyone, that's a reality.

As years go by we must master our emotional states (Sadness, anxiety, feeling down because someone didn't treat you right, et cetera). 😭😭😭

Trying to remain positive, not exploding and never giving up is the meaning of being resilient to me.

We are sensitive humans, yes, even you, tough guy at the gym. Feelings are a part of human psychology, but that doesn't mean one should be a slave to them.

One suggestion is to meditate when something happens, it helps me understand the problem and feel relief. 😄

Another tip would be to get imediately out, go walk! Go to the park, the forest or the beach and feel the true healing power of being truly connected to mother earth. 🌳🌳

How about you? How do you deal when you're not feeling like the sunflower you are?

"Don't grumble, Give a whistle

And this'll help things turn out for the best.

And...

Always look on the bright side of life."

- Monthy Python - Always look on the bright side of life

      The problem with society at the moment is that in everyday life, people feel more inclined to throw up the middle finger than they do the peace sign...

...they would rather glare at you as an act of intimidation than smile at you as a gesture of love and they are more likely to tell you to fuck off than to have a nice day...

      This is disgusting, horrible and really upsetting and it shouldn't be this way...

I'n our own way we should try to change the world and everyone we meet... Will our effort worth it?

I don't know, but I do care... And a better world with less judgement and hate and more peace and love is totally worth it!

We should start acting with more love in our minds. Let's not be "Humans without humanity".

In the island I live in there is a legend about the origin of two lakes that were formed at the crater of a sleeping volcano. It is called The "Lagoa das Sete Cidades" (The Seven Cities's lake).

 The legend says there was once a blue eyed princess, and the princess hated being inside the castle walls feeling like a caged bird...

So she would run and dance everyday in the meadows and woods. She just loved the green, the birds's songs, the sea in the horizon...

One day she met a humble green-eyed Sheppard boy, and they talked all evening and even found out they had many common interests.

And so they would meet and talk everyday and eventually they fell on love.

But the princess destiny had been decided many years ago, for she was promised to a prince of another kingdom, in arranged marriage.

And as her father, the king, found out she had been seeing a Sheppard boy he immediately and totally forbid  her of ever again talking to him, because he was just a Sheppard from a poor family.

But he granted them one last date, so they could say goodbye, forever.

So they met one last time, they hugged and they cried. 

And they cried so much their tears formed puddles, and as they cried the puddles later turned into two lakes.

One of these, the blue lake, had it's color due to the princess blue eyes.

The other one had it's color from the Sheppard's green eyes.

And now they are forever side by side ...

If you would like to one day get to know this wonderful making of nature you must visit "São Miguel" island, In the Azores Archipelago, Portugal.

I hope you enjoyed reading!

Hugs and kisses,

Reny 

-Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo-

      So, I've just watched an YouTube video that made me think about why most of my relationships (both romantic and friendship-based relationships) failed.

      In that video, the Buddhist nun Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo talked about what is love by attachment, the one that hurts, and true, genuine love. Here are her words, or you could just skip to the bottom of the page and just watch the video.

        "The problem is that always we mistake the idea of love for attachment. We imagine that the grasping and clinging that we have for in our relationships shows that we love, where as actually it is just attachment, which causes pain. Because the more we grasp, the more we are afraid to lose, then if we do lose, of course we are going to suffer.

Attachment says: you know I love you, therefore I want you to make me happy.

Genuine love says: I love you, therefore I want you to be happy. If that includes me, great. If it doesn't include me, I just want your happiness.

      Attachment is like holding very tight, but genuine love is like holding very gently, nurturing, but allowing things to flow, not to be held tightly.

The more tight we hold on to others the more we will suffer, but it's very hard for people to understand that, because they think that the more they hold on to someone, the more it shows that they care about them, but it's not.

Its really just that they're holding and grasping so tightly because they are afraid that they themselves will be hurt.

Any kind of relationship that imagines that we can fulfill ourselves through another, is bound to be tricky.

Ideally people should come together already feeling fulfilled within themselves, and thus just appreciating that in the other, rather that expecting the other to supply that well-being, which they don't (but should) feel on their own..." 

- Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo

Most people (as I did too) don't even know what love is, they just think of it as owning and controlling someone, and no happiness could come from that.

True love doesn't mean total attachment!

Thank you so much for this teaching, Jetsunma!

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